Forgive yourself. It sounds simple, but don’t think for a second that it is easy. Getting free from the tyranny of past mistakes can be hard work, but definitely worth the effort. And the payoff is health, wholeness and inner peace. In other words, you get your life back.
– Steve Goodier
We’ve all messed up, even folks like Mother Teresa and Mahatma Gandhi messed up. So why do screw-ups burden us so much? The burden can sometimes overwhelm us, change our perspective, create excess caution, and severely impact our leadership effectiveness.
Like everyone, I’ve had some doozies. Some are simply humorous or embarrassing, some I’m ashamed of, and some still make me cringe knowing how close I came to radically changing my life. Fortunately I’ve always been able to move on fairly easily, sometimes perhaps too much so.
The past is the past. Nothing is going to change it. To be at peace you must accept that it happened, learn from it, remember it just enough so that you know not to repeat it, perhaps make amends if appropriate, and move on. If you knew of someone else that had your past, how would you treat them? Probably with compassion. Do the same to yourself.